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Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by Robron on 8 February 2007 1:57pm
 
I thought you left, Monkey. Lying again, are you?
 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by KikiO on 8 February 2007 4:07pm
 
There are days when I am really good at putting my thoughts into words. Really, really good. And there are days when I totally miss the mark. I know what I'm trying to say, but I don't actually say it very well.....at all. Darn it anyway. :)

 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by johnnythemonkey on 8 February 2007 5:05pm
 
Anne welcome back!I'm still coming to Stafford.
Kikio welcome and stick around,you will get used to me,I'll be around a while.
Robron/Moron ha ha ha ha .

 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by Robron on 8 February 2007 11:07pm
 
Bad news for everyone, Monkey.
 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by Spursfan on 9 February 2007 10:41am
 
Not for EVERYONE, Robron!

Wayhey, Johnny!

Just give me time to polish my trophies, nudge nudge.
;-)

Anne
 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by johnnythemonkey on 9 February 2007 5:06pm
 
Thank you kindly,Anne.(I'm even more of a devil "in the flesh!".)
 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by Spursfan on 9 February 2007 5:45pm
 
Get horny easily do we?!!
 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by canaveralgumby on 9 February 2007 7:14pm
 
Well, I had hoped that this would turn out to be a more intelligent discussion. *SIGH*
 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by KikiO on 9 February 2007 9:49pm
 
I think it still can be.

What makes someone pursue children? I believe a great many people who prey upon children are born with this unfortunate desire. Many will never act on it, and will silently carry their fantasies with them through their entire lives, wishing they could change it but not knowing how. Even confessing to a trained therapist would brand them as a threat and a devient even if they knew they had the self control to never cross the line between fantasy and reality. They feel they can't get any real help for their disorder because getting help means telling someone, and by doing so they risk others finding out. They fear a therapist would be obligated to report them as a possible sex offender.

Others are so driven by the build up their fantasies that they DO act on it. Maybe just once, maybe often, maybe throughout their lifetime.

I believe there are plenty of offenders out there who aren't born with their desires, but something happens to them that makes them want to pursue children to fullfill their sexual appetite. Usually it's because they themselves were sexually abused as children.

Many people who experiences any sort of emotional trauma in their lives is often left living their adult life at the mental/emotional age they were when the trauma occured. Emotionally, they are "stuck" at that age until they find a way to overcome whatever happened to them. If an abuser was abused at a young age, even though they are adults who "know better" they are developmentally stunted and will make life choices as though they were still young themselves, which makes them more incapable of long term thinking or realizing the consequences of their actions. It takes time to develop a true respect for fellow human beings, and even longer to feel true empathy for others. It's an adult skill, not that of a child. Therefore an abuser acts out impulsivly, like a child, to meet their own desires with no real understanding of how their behaviors are going to affect others.

Others who are NOT born that way are pursing children out of pure sexual desire. They are sexual addicts. They can control their desire for children, but they don't want to. The have lived out every other sexual fantasy with other consenting adults, and are left only to pursue that which is taboo in order to meet their growing sexual appetite.

How do we stop it? I wish I knew. Children today are overweight and addicted to television and video games because they aren't allowed to run the streets and play with neighborhood children after school and disapear for hours on end discovering the world around them during their "carefree" summer days because parents are so very aware of the risk of their children being harmed that the children are forced to stay indoors for those hours when their parents are still at work. The offenders can't be stopped, so the only real option for parents is to lock up our children in our homes or stay by their sides 24 hours a day.

Whether or not these people can be "cured" is debateable. Most professionals say they can not. I tend to agree with that. Some have "successfully" gone through therapy and can now control their impulses, but that doesn't mean their minds are free from inappropriate thoughts.

 
Re: What makes someone pursue children/child porn? What can we do to change THAT? by johnnythemonkey on 9 February 2007 10:00pm
 
Apologies Cori if I did'nt appear to take your question seriously.What makes these people act this way?It seems to me to be a deep seated psycho/sexual flaw which in my opinion is uncurable.I say this because the cases I read of in the press always appear to show an escalating pattern of offending over a period of many years.I think these people have to be removed from society to ensure the safety of children.
As for the pornography,the net is the primary cause of the explosion in this area.There have been major police operations that have netted many culprits but these people are proven to be devious and seem to find ways around controls.I'm sure there is much more could be done to control the net but most experts seem to say it is impossible to stop it altogether.
To summarise my views;make great efforts to catch and convict these people,lock them up and forget about them.
 
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