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Can you ignore a crying baby? by johnnythemonkey on 18 July 2007 9:13am
 
I always found it to be most diffcult. I think you should pick them up and give them a cuddle. Always worked for my two. Pair of bastards.
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by Spursfan on 18 July 2007 9:24am
 
When we had Genevieve leaving babies to cry (after making sure nothing was wrong of course!) was 'the thing to do'. So of course, as inexperienced, young (19 and 22) parents,we did just that! But it was hard to follow so after trying to do this for a couple of months or so we gave up and picked her up most of the time when she cried.

Funniest thing that happened was when Simon was newborn. He used to wake in the night (unlike Gen who slept through from day one)about 4 a.m. The routine was that while I heated up his bottle, fed and changed him, Zak would go down and make toast and coffee. One night Si woke up and Z went down. I put his bottle on and (as far as I was concerned) fed and changed him. It turned out I'd fallen asleep and dreamt I'd gone through the full routine of feeding, burping, changing etc!!! Oh well.

I'm trying to work out why you ask - I'm waiting for the punch line. Have I fallen into your trap?

;-)
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by johnnythemonkey on 18 July 2007 9:32am
 
You always fall into my trap Annie. Bottles ? God(?) gave you tits.
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by Spursfan on 18 July 2007 9:40am
 
Don't get me started Johnny!!! As far as I'm concerned it is mum's choice how she feeds her baby and the nanny-state who want us all to breast-feed should butt out!

It was my preference.

I know you're winding me up btw.

 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by johnnythemonkey on 18 July 2007 9:48am
 
I was fed 'the proper ' way Annie. Hence my love/hate with women. I'm a biter and my mum kept slapping me.
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by Spursfan on 18 July 2007 11:19am
 
Lol!!
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by perfectbitch on 19 July 2007 1:50am
 
I always picked up mine if they didn't settle after a couple of minutes. If they were grizzling (when overtired) I found that they'd stop in less than 2 minutes.

As for the feeding issue - Rachel just pinched her face in frustration when on the breast and didn't gain weight so she was topped up with formula. The breastfeeding diminished within a couple of weeks. Jo took to it well but at 8 weeks, I got flu and after 3 weeks was still weak and ill so I had to give up. Both methods have value and bottle feeds do give the father a chance to bond with babes when they are very small.

Linz
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by johnnythemonkey on 19 July 2007 2:54am
 
With my first daughter, I 'took charge' of preparing the bottles. I was soooo meticulous about it. Dunno what happened to her since. :-)
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by Spursfan on 19 July 2007 7:41am
 
Linz I agree with you on the father bonding issue. And I still think that it should be the mother's choice without being bullied by health visitors and the like.

I was lucky - when Genevieve was born you were able to decide for yourself what you wanted to do. When Gen herself had her 3rd and 4th babies, 6 and 8 years after the 2nd, she wanted to bottle feed after breast feeding the first two. The health visitor (or maybe it was the midwife I'm not sure) kept on and on at her until she caved in. That can't be right, surely!!

She became pregnant a couple of years before, but unfortunately because of problems she had to have a late abortion. This caused her to produce milk and she wanted to express it and donate it to the premature baby ward. She was 'bullied' into not doing this as it was thought it would cause all sorts of anguish etc etc. Personally I thhought it would have helped her, in the sense that she may have been able to think that some good had come out of a bad thing.

Sorry - I'm up early and rambling on!!
 
Re: Can you ignore a crying baby? by johnnythemonkey on 19 July 2007 7:47am
 
That was a beautiful thought from your daughter Anne. I'd never thought of people doing that.
 
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