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My best friend's Dad by Spursfan2 on 10 January 2012 9:26am
Can I ask, please, for your prayers/support for my best friend's Dad who had a stroke on New Year's Day?

He is in his late 80s and now can't speak - I don't know if that is a tempirary thing. My friend also had a stroke, in her 40s, and has (more or less) completely recovered. We are obviously hoping her Dad will do the same, but of course he is that much older.

Up until this stroke he was a very independent man, cooking and cleaning for himself and driving too. Her Mom died a few years ago of leukemia.

Growing up I thought of her parents as my second Mom and Dad and she did the same with mine.

Heather now lives just outside York and has the added pressure of not being there all the time but having to come down every weekend to be with him (other famuly members still live here).
Re: My best friend's Dad by TERRY S on 10 January 2012 10:03pm
Get well soon, best friends' Dad!
Re: My best friend's Dad by Loretto on 10 January 2012 10:38pm
Sorry to hear about your friend's dad Anne. It is hard to watch someone suffer, especially when you've known them for a long time and they are like family to you.
Re: My best friend's Dad by Lounge Trekker on 11 January 2012 12:02am
Anything you can do to make his life easier will be appreciated. He has my hopes and prayers.
Re: My best friend's Dad by tucsonmike on 11 January 2012 12:52am
Keeping my fingers crossed for your friend's Dad.
Re: My best friend's Dad by kazzzz on 11 January 2012 12:45pm
Ah very sad, hope all will be well with him xxx
Re: My best friend's Dad by suzulu on 11 January 2012 9:41pm
Hope he will be OK.
Re: My best friend's Dad by Spursfan2 on 24 January 2012 5:58pm
Well I thought it about time I put an update on Heather's Dad.

He is still in hospital at the moment, can move around (he tried to escape back home last week!) and is talking.

He forgets what he wants to say, so he'll say 'Do you remember when...' but then forgets when what, or 'What I wanted to say was...' and forgets what it was. Also he can tell the time but can't always remember what a clock is.

Heather said this morning that he has started getting really cross, which neither of us can ever remember him doing before, and has even thrown his crockery around the room. He has good and bad days.

I said he's getting cross because inside he is still the same, independent person and he is getting frustrated at not being able to speak or move around properly. Also he wants desparately to go home.

Hopefully, he will shortly be going into a residential home for 8 weeks, and then will be going home. Obviously the family (Heather and her two sisters and brother) will support him, but there will be a care and meals on wheels structure because the family can't be there all the time (her brother is the only one still living in Stafford).

It all looks hopeful but obviously there is a long way to go yet.
Re: My best friend's Dad by Lounge Trekker on 24 January 2012 7:14pm
My friend Ben is almost 80 and has a rapidly-gaining Alzheimer's. His much younger wife still works and is struggling to live her life. In the time I've known them she was rarely around. In addition to seeing her partner's abilities fade she still tries to be away.

When I go to town, I often ask Ben if he would like to come with me, as he spends all day alone. He loves it. He goes places he's never been, and sees a different horizon for an hour or two. Seeing me gets him thinking and talking and that must be good.

This is the best way I can help them through this, and I feel I should. When I was in a wheelchair a few winter's back, he came over a few times a week to drag some firewood in for me. I'll bring a crib board over one day and try that. It'll be good for both of us. He'll need to try and concentrate and not talk too much...and I hate playing cards. Maybe I'll make up new rules so the game goes faster.
Re: My best friend's Dad by Spursfan2 on 24 January 2012 7:45pm
Nice of you to think of your friend, Pete.

So sad when Alzheimer shows its ugly head - and scary to think ANY of us could go that way.

Thank goodness neither of my parents suffered in this way, but I would most like to be like my Auntie Kathleen, who in her 90s was still visiting the UK from Canada (where she had been living since 1920 - Red Deer, Calgary) and was as bright as a button each trip, remembering what you'd said the trip before. She was also still playing poker (for money !!!) even when she had to go into a care home aged 98!!

She sadly died just after her 99th birthday, in 1999, a few months after this 'game old bird' had had to give up her independence and depend on others for everything.

She is much missed.

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