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Couples in the workplace. by johnnythemonkey on 6 August 2007 5:58am
I met two people the other night from my work. They were embarrassed to be seen together although they are both 'free agents'. I had heard some time ago that they were seeing each other, but as gossip is'nt high on my agenda, I had forgotten about it. They told me that our employers had given them a hard time about it and wanted one of them to move to our other location. I was at first angry to hear this, but as the guy is directly in charge of the lady, I suppose I can see my employers point of view. Steve is a tough bugger and told me he has had to listen while some asses passed inappropriate comments towards his girl. She is more than capable of dealing with such issues, through her personality and the fact she competed at international level at some martial art. Has anyone else been in the position where a relationship was seen to be a workplace problem ?
The only problems I've had is guys in a supposedly macho environment whom I've been in charge of, whining that I was too tough towards them. I was once in the steel industry and had a boss known as 'the cruelty man' whose way of dealing with issues was offering to take guys outside. A few took up the offer but as things were much simpler in those pre PC days, no-one lost their job and things moved on and the work was done. Men were men and women were double-breasted. :) Do I , at the age of 49 belong to another era ? Well, I preferred that era.
Re: Couples in the workplace. by tucsonmike on 6 August 2007 6:12am
Never. In the U.S. you avoid such situations like the plague. It can get both of you fired. There is a married couple in my place, but they are in completely separate departments.

Many companies in Tucson will not hire couples together. In my old job, I remember the fear when I bumped into one of my coworkers and an immediate boss. I liked both, and would never have done this, but I could have ratted them out to upper management and gotten both fired.

It is again part of the legalistic culture.
Re: Couples in the workplace. by johnnythemonkey on 6 August 2007 6:35am
I've slept with a few of my bosses wives. Does that keep me safe ? Plus, I could still outbox them in more ways than one. I'm quite the smartarse and have yet to be outdone. Litigation? Bring it on, I always keep evidence in my favour. I fear nothing and no-one (apart from my wife).
Tongue-in -cheek for those of you who don't realise.
Re: Couples in the workplace. by geordiegirl on 6 August 2007 1:40pm
Oh yes, Mike, I guess you are talking about library workers. i knew a situation - long time ago - where two people in the same library-department were living together & this was disapproved of but nothing could be done. They WERE married but not to each other.
I remember in last year's wonderful film "Goodnight & Good Luck" a journalist couple married & trying to hide it was quite a significant substrand of the film. (Superb film, hope you saw it. Wasn't Ed Morrow The Voice Of America on those newsreels?)
Re: Couples in the workplace. by canaveralgumby on 6 August 2007 8:11pm
I met my husband when we worked in the same company. We did not work "together" in the same dept., nor were we high-level employees. I don't think it was a problem. I dids happen to move on to another company for better job/pay, but it wasn't out of necessity. That was 1988......
Re: Couples in the workplace. by Palin_Lover on 7 August 2007 4:52pm
I think it's always best to not be involved with someone at work but my parents worked together for several years!
Re: Couples in the workplace. by Gollumit on 8 August 2007 12:09am
Now it is all so clear why you are a socialist...

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