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A sad occurrence by ev on 28 May 2009 6:42pm
A very sad thing happened yesterday.. one of my girlfriend's younger sisters, who had just turned 6 the day before, passed away after falling during a walk with the family through a hilly area. She ran off down the path (you know what 6 year olds are like), took a wrong turn and fell down a steep incline. They found her a day later (today?) with a helicopter.

I'm very sad. Just found out a couple of hours ago.

Some of you older folk probably have a lot more experience than I do, as tragedies have been relatively rare among my family and friends. Not only do I feel sad but also don't know so much what to say to the family or what to do, if there is much one can do?

Damn.. that feeling when you hear someone receiving such news on the phone, and knowing that the lives of some people close to you have been changed forever.

I hope you don't mind me posting this here, guys.
Re: A sad occurrence by canaveralgumby on 28 May 2009 7:13pm
There is nothing worse that can happen to a family. Just be there and be supportive for them. How awful. So sorry.
Re: A sad occurrence by tucsonmike on 28 May 2009 7:27pm
Ev, there is no problem with posting it here, which is why it is called "Blathering On."

Cori is right. All you can do is be there for them. I am going through a problem situation like that now for a friend that may require a trip to L.A. Just be ready to pitch in when needed.
Re: A sad occurrence by ev on 28 May 2009 8:16pm
Thanks.. I appreciate your advice.
Re: A sad occurrence by johnnythemonkey on 28 May 2009 8:42pm
Gee, I don't know what to say Ev. It's just so sad and I hope your girlfriend and her family find strengh to get through the coming days.
Try to be of any practical help that you can and of course be there to listen and be a shoulder to lean on. Best wishes.
Re: A sad occurrence by ev on 28 May 2009 9:05pm
Re: A sad occurrence by mrsteabag on 28 May 2009 9:34pm
{ev and freinds}
Re: A sad occurrence by artofcp on 28 May 2009 10:48pm
I'm terribly sorry to hear of your friend's loss. Everyone is different, but I think we all need company when a loved one dies.
Re: A sad occurrence by sighthound on 29 May 2009 5:36am
It's always so hard, ev, to find the words to say to a family that has just had such a horrible tragedy. I used to always try to come up with something original but then I'd often find I was stumped and would not say anything at all which was not right. Now I say all the old cliches but, as long as it is said with feeling, it is good.

However, you can tell them that people all over the world (palinites) have heard the story and are mourning along with them. That might be some consolation.
Re: A sad occurrence by kazzzz on 29 May 2009 5:52am
Oh that is just terrible ev, I'm so sorry to hear that I don't know what to say. there's just nothing TO say, the family will be grieving terribly and will I'm sure just be in a state of disbelief. I'm so sorry.
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