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A Friends Tribute to his best mate by Wheelrim on 26 January 2013 6:07pm
My old Schoolmate Gary Mo passed away recently following a long battle with Lung Cancer. Gary never smoked and was super fit. I spent my teen years with Gary after he arrived from HK in 1974. We were very good mates as I chose to take under my wing the `Unusal Chinaman` at School. Gary lived 2 doors from me and I helped a lot in his dads Chinese restaurant. I learnt a lot. We became close and In 1980 I was posted to Hong Kong in the RAF and had a good inkling on Chinese ideals. Then, as in life, we saw less and less of each other as my life in the RAF meant little time at home. 3 years ago I searched Gary out, living in Portsmouth, a successful guy with a large wholesale chinese foods business, Married with a beautiful young daughter, my wife and I met Gary and his daughter at the Spinniker in Portsmouth and as we walked, talked and caught up on each others lives for a few hours it was clear he was happy in life and everybody seemed to know and like Gary as we walked around. We parted and it was shortly afterwards that Gary was diagnosed. So sad.
Anyway, I could not make his funeral last monday but his best friend Tommy, put together the below video. Obviously I do not expect a stranger to watch all, or even any of it. I watched it last night having returned from the UK after a few days in Dover. It was in my inbox. I sat through it and cried. cried with joy and sadness at how Garys life had progressed without me. It was wonderful and a marvellous tribute to a most wonderful human being. If you watch just the first couple of minutes you will see a speccy english boy with Gary. That was me, Gary`s friend.
I wish everyone had friends like Gary. Or like Gary`s best friend Tommy Cheung who loved his friend so much he put this video together.

Re: A Friends Tribute to his best mate by Spursfan2 on 27 January 2013 10:55am
So sorry to hear about your friend. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose my two best friends (I know you hadn't seen him in a while but he was still in your heart and vice versa).

Lynda and I have been friends since we were 8 years old, a gob-smacking 52 years ago (!!) She joined my primary school and I was given the job of looking after her as we lived near each other. I was aware of Heather but we didn't become close until the year before we left primary school.

Heather now lives near York, and approx. 12 years ago (maybe more?) she had a stroke. We thought we'd lost her!! Luckily she has recovered brilliantly - but I can't even contemplate what might have been.

We all meet up every other month, and Heather and I talk often on the phone (for at least an hour each time!!).

I know all the above may seem irrelevant to the thread, but I wanted to let you know that I understand how you feel about your friend.

I watched 5 mins of the video; very moving.

Re: A Friends Tribute to his best mate by Wheelrim on 27 January 2013 11:56am
Cheers Anne, Guess really I was trying to say, get in touch with your old friends, just once even... catch up, then move on if you wish. You will both benefit, and its SO much easier these days.
Re: A Friends Tribute to his best mate by Lounge Trekker on 27 January 2013 5:53pm
I'm sorry to hear of the loss of a good friend of yours, John. As always, you have written an eloquent tribute; one can hear that Gary will always live on in your heart.
Re: A Friends Tribute to his best mate by ev on 28 January 2013 11:09am
Good advice, John... even a short email or phone call expressing a few kind sentiments can resonate even past our own short lives. It's often easy to think that what we say doesn't make a difference, but it most certainly does. There's great power in words.

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