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Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by kazzzz on 23 December 2007 9:09am
 
So towels on the floor means love? I must be totally ADORED in that case!!!!

I was reading an article on new studies of the teenage brain last week, (my dad found it in a magazine) and it really made fascinating reading in that their minds really are all over the place. I shall repeat this to myself ten times per day in the hope that it helps ;)
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by perfectbitch on 23 December 2007 11:36am
 
Towels! Never mind girls - wait until they have places of their own and then you can return the compliment. If they complain just tell them that it shows just how much you love them. : ).

Linz
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by MMMmmm... on 23 December 2007 11:05pm
 
I think it can also be a sign that they still want you to help take care of them. They don't really want to be competely self-sufficient yet. They still want you to help them with their "dirty laundry", etc. I think it's also a way of testing you and being a little mad at you because they want you to love them more than be mad about the towels. It's their way of saying, which is really most important to you, me, or the towels?

My mother died when I was little, and although it was really sad/painful, etc. I was mostly left on my own, and things were far from perfect, my father had a good way of getting me to do "chores". He would treat me very nicely and respectfully, but still act as the parent authority figure, and he used postive re-enforcement, always remembering to thank me for doing what he had asked me to do, especially in the beginning, until it all became more automatic. So I never resented him for those things, and there was no power struggle created. He was a manager of people in his business at work, and I think he learned that was the best way to get people to do what you want.

There were other issues that he didn't understand (he was also very sarcastic and cynical in a way that was more harmful than anything else) but he was good at that.

I think there's a lot of potential factors - it also depends on all the pressures the child's under and how good they feel about themselves - they'll tend to act out the more unhappy they are, etc., but that also has to do with how well they feel they're being treated, loved, and appreciated for being themselves at home. But I think disapproval and anger/frustration leads to backlash and more problems generally.
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by MMMmmm... on 24 December 2007 12:50am
 
I want to share this, I thought it was quite amazing, almost like a Christmas miracle!(It's from an older man's post on Deepak Chopra's website):

"My family's gift to each other this Christmas - Presence without Presents - four generations contributing according to their abilities to the Feast - to the sharing of Love and hugs and laughter - Christians, Non-Christians, Agnostics and others sharing the joy of Oneness!"
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by johnnythemonkey on 24 December 2007 12:55am
 
Sounds like the stingy old bugger could'nt be bothered buying pressies ! ;)
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by MMMmmm... on 24 December 2007 12:58am
 
No, he's really into world peace, and "Oneness". He's also got a whole blog dedicated to it! :)
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by johnnythemonkey on 24 December 2007 1:05am
 
World peace and "oneness " ? I bet that he's American !
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by MMMmmm... on 24 December 2007 1:07am
 
I think he is! Yes, he is!
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by johnnythemonkey on 24 December 2007 1:11am
 
How many bombs does he have to bring about world peace ?
 
Re: Where ( or did ) I go wrong ? by MMMmmm... on 24 December 2007 1:14am
 
Ha, ha Johnny! Personally, he has zero!
 
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