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  The Chatter Box : Blathering On
Dad Update by pandab on 8 March 2007 5:00am
Thank you, everyone, for your wonderful support! You have no idea how much I appreciate it or how much it means to me that total "strangers" are so willing to offer it.

I've just spent that past couple days staying with my father. I'm exhausted, but the time with him is important for him and me. My brother has taken over for a few days. He is a far better caregiver than I am. He amazes me.

Steve is what I call a gentle bully with my dad. Where I seek to find out what Dad wants, Steve just blusters in and says, "All right! We're having a movie day today." Or "We're going to the gym today and sit in the sauna for a little while." Don't misunderstand me. It's not that Steve ignores what Dad wants, but he takes more of an initiative to get him occupied than I seem able to do. Plus, he's more creative than I am about doing it. I'm better at organizing, handling the business end of things and dealing with the doctors, so on the whole, we make a good team.

Dad had a bad day yesterday. Very depressed. But today was better. We had some errands to do, and we went out to lunch. We walked a circuit around the mall and went to the grocery store. He was tuckered out when we got home, but tired as he was, I think going out was good for him.

We saw a neurosurgeon on Monday. Dad goes for a biopsy next Thursday, and the doctor will have at least some preliminary results by that afternoon. I saw the tumor on the MRI films. It is indeed very large and right in the middle of the back portion of his brain. I got to speak to the doctor for a few minutes in private. He is not swimming in a sea of optimism, but he is not willing to speak definitely until after the biopsy, which is reasonable. He prescribed a steroid for Dad that will hopefully relieve some of the pressure in on his brain. Dad says he can already tell a slight improvement in his ability to read. His memory is still really bad, but he was able to stay with a train of thought better today. How much of that is the medicine, I don't know, but I'll take whatever sign of improvement for him that we can get.

I'll be back with Dad in a few days to give my brother a break.

Thanks again!

Re: Dad Update by johnnythemonkey on 8 March 2007 5:07am
Donna, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Re: Dad Update by kazzzz on 8 March 2007 5:08am
This is what life is all about...family :) Thinking of you .
Re: Dad Update by Caty on 8 March 2007 6:27am
Glad to hear that you and your brother make such a great team in caring for your Dad! I'm also glad to hear that there have been slight improvements with your Dad's condition as well. Keep us updated and we're all thinking of you and saying prayers.
Re: Dad Update by foreignrabbit on 8 March 2007 3:09pm
my thoughts are with you all. keep up with the updates. we're all glad that we can help.
Re: Dad Update by Lounge Trekker on 8 March 2007 6:08pm
Your brother Steve and yourself are offering your Dad the oldest most valuable form of medicine...one that modern medicine cannot match, family love and care. Be strong. We hope for all the best.

Re: Dad Update by sighthound on 8 March 2007 8:51pm
Thinking of you and your Dad, Donna, (and wishing I had a brother like yours.)

Hugs, Geraldine
Re: Dad Update by perfectbitch on 8 March 2007 9:29pm
The drugs are brilliant and you may find that his appetite increases. I am keeping my fingers crossed that it is operable. This will be a precious time for the family. Keep positive and in good humour. Thinking of you, Linz
Re: Dad Update by Louise on 8 March 2007 10:17pm
Do let us have further reports, won`t you?
All the best - Lou
Re: Dad Update by Palin_Lover on 9 March 2007 3:11am
I'll pray for you! ^__^

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