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Some advice, please.. by ev on 22 June 2012 3:23pm
Damn I just wrote a lengthy and heartfelt appeal for advice regarding a difficult situation, but it took so long to write that I was logged out automatically and the entire message was lost!

I couldn't be bothered writing it all again, so any positive or constructive comments would be much appreciated. I'll just imagine that they're responses to the difficult situation at hand.

Thanks, fellow travellers..
Re: Some advice, please.. by Ken Dunn on 22 June 2012 4:37pm
Um - don't write too much without submitting it after every few minutes.

Putting your appeal in writing may have helped you to develop your own good advice.
Re: Some advice, please.. by ev on 22 June 2012 6:00pm
You're right. It made me realise that writing down one's problems in detail, or more importantly, how you feel about them, can help get things off your chest a bit..

It short though, the problem is that I've been thinking very violent thoughts against someone who has repeatedly caused me damage and constantly lied to me. I'm generally a friendly fellow, but arrogant bullies make me boil with rage.. I feel like taking him down with a great vengeance..
Re: Some advice, please.. by Lounge Trekker on 22 June 2012 6:09pm
Don't do anything rash, Ev. Keep yourself out of situations where he can be offensive. Take the high road here, but should he need your assistance...let him fall. Don't even look back. Don't gloat, but let him fall.
Re: Some advice, please.. by johnnyBgood! on 22 June 2012 10:14pm
Hi Ev. Ken's words were correct and so was Pete's advice.

If it's someone in the workplace you're referring to, go through the proper channels. If it's someone in your social life, just ditch the git.
Re: Some advice, please.. by ev on 22 June 2012 10:30pm
It's business-related. I have to close down my current office due to this liar/con-man.
Re: Some advice, please.. by johnnyBgood! on 22 June 2012 10:39pm
Sorry to hear that Ev. I know you're not 'a dafty', so there's little I can say.
Revenge is a dish best served cold.
Re: Some advice, please.. by ev on 22 June 2012 10:43pm
Ok I'll do my best ice-cube impersonation..

I have a meeting tomorrow.with him to finalise some things. I expect lots of accusations and total denial of any wrongdoing, so I'm very worried about how I'm going to contain my anger.

In psychology, people like that are known as sociopaths. Remorseless, lying and manipulative. I've been trying to inform myself as best as possible on how to deal with them, for example, "how to deal with sociopaths":

and this one "Thirteen Rules for Dealing with Sociopaths in Everyday Life":
Re: Some advice, please.. by johnnyBgood! on 23 June 2012 12:14am
At this late time in events, don't waste your time trying to analyse this person. Gather your facts, be assertive and businesslike and forget his personality. If you have to have a face to face meeting, imagine a perspex screen between the two of you.

If all that fails.....give him a 'Glasgow kiss' from me ;)

All the best EV.
Re: Some advice, please.. by kazzzz on 23 June 2012 4:02am
Sorry to hear that Ev, sounds like this person needs to be removed from your life. Don't belt him it'll just get you into trouble. Try to move on, I know it's hard, karma will get him. The best way is to go on be successful and leave him behind.
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